Verbal Self-Defense For Girls
A "verbal self-defense training in a box" licensed course for schools, colleges, institutions, organizations, self-defense associations, martial arts dojos, and companies committed to the empowerment of women and girls to say no, prevent assault and stop rape.
The old model is to teach physical self-defense.
The new model is to use verbal self-defense first to prevent a physical attack.
In this course we distill and simplify the process of verbal self-defense for each of the most precarious situations that girls will encounter with friends, family, teachers, boyfriends, colleagues and strangers. We will practice how to handle 10 of the most common difficult or dangerous scenarios a girl 12-24 will face
What it is
A unique verbal self-defense course that teaches young women 12-24 how to protect themselves verbally in life’s most difficult and dangerous situations and stay safe.
Why it Matters
When a young woman knows how to handle tricky situations she is less likely to become the victim of emotional, physical, or sexual abuse.
|This program will save lives!
True Shield™ is the most important training program I’ve found that teaches young women how to defend themselves in uncomfortable and downright dangerous encounters with predators. With 30 years’ experience as a victim advocate, I can confidently say this program will absolutely decrease violence by men against young women, by giving girls the tools and language they need to thwart attacks.
According to the U.S. Bureau of Justice Statistics, females ages 16-19 are four times more likely than the general population to be victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault.
I was molested and sexually assaulted as a teenager myself. I believe that if the True Shield™ program had been available to me when I was young and more vulnerable, I would have been a much tougher target for predators and would not have ultimately been victimized. This program will save lives!
Educational institutions that want to lower the drop out rate of girls by decreasing bullying, pregnancy, PTSD, and stress. Verbal self-defense is the quickest, easiest, most cost-effective way to do that. When young girls know how to protect themselves it increases their confidence, self-esteem, and their grades.
Colleges that want to decrease rape and law suits for rapes committed on campus and protect their good reputation as a respected and safe school so parents won't hesitate to send their daughters.
Organizations committed to the empowerment and protection of young women that seek additional resources to enhance their existing programs. Adding verbal self-defense to the curriculum will draw in more program participants and help gain greater recognition and credibility for your organization.
Female leaders who want to promote empowerment so girls can protect themselves in the most dangerous and difficult daily situations. Verbal self-defense is a skill that any girl can learn that will serve her in all areas of her life including getting and keeping a job, becoming a leader, creating a business, speaking out against injustice, and gaining confidence and self-esteem to do whatever it is she is called to do in this life.
Parents and grandparents who want their daughters to be able to speak up for themselves and other in any situation and stay safe. This verbal self-defense course shows girls and young women how to carry themselves with authority and be taken seriously by anyone. In today's world self-defense knowledge and implementation is not a luxury, it's a necessity.
Who is using it?
Schools, shelters, outreach programs for at risk girls and organizations like the YWCA, Boys & Girls Clubs, Girl Scouts, Girls Inc..
What's covered the course?
Overview. This is a 6-hour program that empowers young girls and marries the fundamentals of martial arts practice with practical application in today’s world. It teaches body awareness, centering, personal strength, how to command challenging situations, and manage unwanted attention - all through easy-to-learn intentional techniques.
What do situations do the scenarios cover? These scenarios span from someone being unkind right through to improper touching. We deal with everything from addressing inappropriate behavior to managing uninvited physical contact.
How does it work? The 6-hour program is divided into a number of components that shows young women both the verbal and physical ways to handle these challenging situations. All the participants role-play each scenario several times so they can freely experiment with their responses and continue to improve until they feel confident and able to hold their own.
It’s fast-paced, spirited, and enlivening. Which means that participants are standing up, moving, using their voices and bodies while role-playing realistic situations so that the teaching becomes embodied.
The 5 pillars of strength we focus on that we apply in each of the 10 scenarios are:
- Command presence.
- Solid stance.
- Speaking out.
- Making eye contact.
- Creating safe space.
The result? Through active and engaging repetition we are rewiring the victim default response and replacing it with confidence and know-how. By the end of the program you'll be able to observe both subtle and dramatic transformations in all the participants.
How it is Delivered
This is a done-for-you self-defense “course in a box” complete package that includes facilitator’s guide, intake/outtake survey, video, FAQ, press release, contracts, flyer, follow-up materials + more, that anyone can follow, even with no prior teaching experience. There is a flat, annual licensing fee renewed yearly. You can have as many facilitators and train as many participants as you like. There is no limit. All materials are digital and downloadable.
By the time they are 12 most girls have experienced some kind of inappropriate touching, boundary crossing, or verbal or sexual assault.
It’s a fact that the majority of the participants will face these 10 most common dangerous or difficult situations, if they haven’t already. And the outcome of their experiences will be directly related to the amount of preparation they’ve had when they meet those situations.
This self-defense course gives girls a voice to protect themselves and others so they stay safe.
How This Verbal Self-Defense Course is Different
Our proprietary process is based on the principles of Aikido (Japanese Martial arts called “The way of harmony”) compassion, and on solid, time-tested communication skills created by a world-renowned media trainer and women's empowerment expert, teacher, best-selling author, former tennis pro and Aikido black belt.
This 6-hour verbal self-defense course can be delivered in one or two hour increments, or any increment you choose, over a time period that works best for you. It harnesses proven practices that show girls how to assess their options under stress and take instant action on the spot. The result is increased confidence, self-esteem and motivation.
What are the girls saying?
|It was really important for me to have a space where we can talk about our experiences as a way to empower ourselves.
I really enjoyed the Verbal Self Defense Training. One of the things that stood out to me the most were the important conversations that occurred as a result of the scenarios. In particular, it was really important for me to have a space where, women especially, can talk about our experiences as a way to empower ourselves.
|It felt empowering to learn new ways to protect myself
I thought the program was incredibly useful and easy to understand. It felt empowering to learn new ways to protect myself and I gained more confidence as well.
"I can always stand up for myself verbally instead of physically." Age 15
"I learned how to be firm and not to back down." Age 13
"Saying no is OK." Age 12
"I got that there are a lot of ways to say no to many different situations and that’s helpful. Even if it’s small you can say no. Because so many people don’t know how to say no strongly. And then people don’t take you seriously." Age 15
"I now know how to say no without offending anyone. At least not a lot." Age 14
"I learned that there’s more than just being firm in getting your point across, more than just words. Like body language." Age 14
What's Included in
Verbal Self-Defense Training in a Box?"
All materials are digital + downloadable.
You can access them at any time.
Verbal Self-Defense for Girls
You can have as many facilitators and teach as many participants as you like.
There is no limit!
* Renewable Yearly
Creator of The True Shield™ Verbal Self-Defense Course
If you have any questions I'd be delighted to answer them Just choose a time and we'll connect
Susan Harrow (me!) is a black belt in Aikido, a former tennis pro with a high school teaching credential and author of the best-selling book, Sell Yourself Without Selling Your Soul (HarperCollins). I've been certified in a behavior based screening technique called Targeted Selection Interviewing (TSI) where I interviewed 1,500 job candidates as a consultant for Pacific Bell Directory/SBC/AT&T for nearly 10 years and put 3,000 of them through role plays analyzing their body language, vocabulary and subtle facial cues to determine if they had the chops to work in high-pressure sales or C-Suite positions.
For the past 31 years I've run Harrow Communications, a media consultancy, where I've media trained everyone from Fortune 500 CEOs to celebrity chefs to prepare them for TV, radio and print interviews on CBS’ 60 Minutes, CNN, Fox News, GMA, NPR, The New York Times, WSJ, O, Vanity Fair, Parade, People, Inc., Fortune, etc. This verbal self-defense course comes out of my deep desire to empower girls to speak their mind, stand their ground, sing their song. Read my manifesto. I love to curl up with a good mystery and a bar of dark chocolate. What you might not know about me is that I was almost sold into slavery to a Bedouin Sheik in Israel for 10 camels and a mule.
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